I’ve never been a big fan of the social networking site. I’ll cop to it: I love blogging and I bleed Xanga, and my loyalty makes me biased. Whenever I have free time, it usually goes towards my blog—I’m either writing a new post, rewriting the post, getting really frustrated because I’m rewriting the freaking post again and it still doesn’t sound right, or drawing a Paint picture to go with the now tired-ass post that has been rewritten, like, 7 times before it’s made public.
Blogging is an arduous and very time-consuming task, but most creative processes are and will continue to be that way…unless my wish to have super-creative-writing-in-seconds talent comes true. I’ve been wishing on a lot of stars, my friends, but those balls of gas are extremely cheap or something because they keep ignoring my requests. Granted, most of the stars turn out to be planes—but give me a break! I’m in Los Angeles, people; I’m lucky to be able to see anything underneath the smog cover.
My online time goes towards my Xanga, with the most important aspect being the writing itself. The profile was really the last thing I worked on because I consider it to be just an accessory for my blog. It’s there for people who are really, really bored, so you’re not missing out on anything if you never see it.
I view the social networking site as a blog-less Xanga, i.e., pointless. You put up pictures of yourself, talk about your likes and dislikes, and then let it sit there for other people to view. That’s not to say I don’t use the sites. Whenever I hear a lot of news about the newest trend in the social networking world, I’ll create a profile to see what all the hype is about. I’ve tried Friendster, MySpace, and now am on Facebook because that’s where the migration has been heading. My profiles are fairly basic, and will eventually be abandoned, because again, there is no blogging aspect and therefore no reason for me to devote any more time on it.
The abandoning phase of the Facebook account may come sooner than anticipated because a few people on my “Friends” list have gotten dumped by their boyfriends or girlfriends, and have responded by putting up really lame and pathetic status updates for everyone to see. I’m talking about crap like this:
X really wishes he could take it all back…
Y will never believe in love ever again.
Z don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you got ‘til it’s gone?
I find the last one most annoying. The little Facebook status module looks like this:
The little cartoon speech bubble is asking you: “what are you doing right now?” and your response is you’re doing a Joni Mitchell lyric. Okay…
Anyway, the emo status updates, no matter who they are written by, are all created out of the same formula: overly-exaggerated descriptions of a broken heart that are directed at someone who is never mentioned, but whom everyone knows is the writer’s ex.
This crap is loserish on so many levels. First of all, the dumpee is posting these lame-ass status updates for their ex to see, which makes no sense whatsoever. Does he think that by showcasing how much pain he is in, his ex will change her mind and get back into the relationship? Why would she even care? She is the one who dumped you in the first place, you asshat. She doesn’t care how much sadder you make yourself sound because she expected you to feel like dirt in the first place.
Secondly, whatever happened to maintaining one’s cool after getting dumped? I thought people tried to downplay the humiliation of getting kicked to the curb by acting totally unfazed by it. If anything, you do it to give your ex the impression that you weren’t that much into him or her in the first place. That way, your ex loses whatever ego boost he may have had when he thought you were miserable without him, and you get to preserve your dignity.
It’s not that hard–and yet, you’d rather take the route of publicizing your pussification? You deserve to be single!
absolutangel64 
Xanga is like facebook with a soul.
Man I am guilty of this. I feel like a douche now. Thanks for this though. ha. peace
Haha. My fave is when ppl’s relationships get rocky & so on my feed for days is like:X and Y are no longer in a relationshipX is now singleY is now in a complicated relationship.X and Y are now in a complicated relationshipY is now single.X and Y are now in a relationship.And my very favorite? When after two weeks of that, suddenly,X and Y are now engaged.Umm.
Hahahah.
FB is good for reconnecting with friends, but not for blogging as you said.I think it’s stupid to list your relationship status because the whole world knows once you got dumped!
Oye. Yes, I completely understand what you mean about the retarded facebook status messages. That’s all I see every single day. “Person is I wish it would all just go away.” First of all, they’re apparently too lazy to take the “is” out of the default status message, so not only does it look like they don’t know squat about proper grammar, but it also sounds, as you say, emo. x . x And then they post these “blogs” about how much they’ve changed and all the “hardships” they went through in the past year.Yea I sound mean, don’t I? lol!
ahs. fb is ok i guess. just for keeping in touch. but i do prefer xanga. writing and keeping memories. what can fb do?? nothing but have people pry into your social life. >>;;
I virtually never comment on blogs but…This was too fabulous to go without a compliment. This post was made of win.
xanga is the best. cool cartoons. i can see you spent a lot of time on it.
Haha class post!
haha u always have the cute cartoons…hehe happy holidays
I’ve never been a big fan of social networking sites either. Although Xanga falls under the category, it is also a blogging community, in which the members actually put thought into their posts… not like on Facebook where 40% revolves around your relationship status and people take two seconds to write little phrases about what they’re currently doing or how they’re feeling as their status. I’m not hating on Facebook, it’s just that I see it as just maybe more effortless than Xanga.
This blog is so cute, and I HATE emo status updates, too!!!
@whotakethmycoke – I agree.Facebook is just to keep in touch with everyone on a broader level.Xanga (actually I use LJ nowadays) I use to sort out my thoughts and share with my close friends. Like you said, blogging takes a while, it’s more like a guide to sorting out my feelings than an actual way of spreading my news. They’re both good. Just… different. XD
i agree with ur 2nd point of being “cool”. People like attention –> status updates –> drama(the root of all evil)
Funny with logicI absolutely agree with you.
lol, I love your paint brush sketches! lol.
facebook is pointless… true ‘dat!
yea i see what you mean by this. Those status updates piss me off too, so I turned them off from my feed 🙂 i bascially use facebook & myspace to socialize with others [although i’ve kind of dropped myspace]. It’s good for connecting with people you’ve lost touch with or don’t see often. It’s also really good if you need to know something about class and don’t have so and so’s # lol. But as far as quality goes? Xanga wins hands down. I like reading what other people think, what their views are, etc. It’s much more fullfilling. great post!
omg thumb4 wat u said.i jus abandoned my facebk acc one of the reasons is pointless2 waste time on it and main reason is privacy issues.i feel like my life is being spied on to keep up w/ the updates on facebk esp the picstagging function.:/
I started with xanga, and soon no one was using it anymore and had moved to myspace, so I kept my xanga secretly but also used myspace then everyone moved to facebook and GAH! Okay, i’m sorry that I don’t want to know that this kid who isn’t even friends with me is brushing their teeth. Xanga will always be my favorite place to be.
Right on!
@happyjen85 – Blogging on Facebook’s usually a waste of time. People see the update, might or might not read, and that’s that. Kind of fatalistic, isn’t it? At least Xanga’s more about blogging than emo status updates.
Xanga for life!
I save all my emo crap for private Xanga posts–I don’t get why some people need to go around begging for some kind of pity party. I totally know what you mean right now because a coworker of mine has made me almost homicidal because not only am I subjected to her constant bitterness/sadness/whining in real life, I have to see it every time I log onto facebook too, and then the next day she goes on about how her Facebook stalking has proved unfruitful (or worse she saw something she didn’t want to see). The height of her crap? When someone got engaged and she cried outloud that she didn’t give a crap. Ugh! I wish I could send her this post.
It’s safe to say, you make my life! Haha!
Xanga is more fun, because I can truly show my personality and creativity. Pink’s way of dealing with failed relationship is the way to go!
Damn I didnt know you spent that much time re-writing and thinking out your posts…..but I’m glad you put that kind of them into your posts because your posts are the BOMB, haha, they always entertain and make me laugh the hardest out of all of them. I dont know how you do it but keep it up if you can find the time between being smarty pants law student (right? shit I have a horrible memory). Friend me if you wanna on facebook, even though your post was pretty much anti all that shit, haha 🙂
I see your point, I don’t usually blog on myspace or facebook, because to me, blogging is rather personal .one good thing about facebook is I get to keep in touch with all my friends, including high school friends too .
i wonder why people feel the need to constantly update their status on myspace or whatever. i don’t have any of the other ones…just xanga.as always, an awesome post that really hits the spot!
Facebook status updates about how people hate life after they are dumped are annoying!
k i’ve been reading your blog from the latest entry to now and i think they’re all hilarious, but i decided to stop lurking cuz i just wanted to exhult: OMG ANOTHER PERSON WHO DRAWS AS THEIR PROFILE PIC!!! even if you don’t use it anymore 😛 i guess i should have expected it after all this time. i usually don’t update statuses, but when i do want to, i draw a picture on paint that represents my mood/the event and put it up as my profile pic while updating the status to match/explain.ditto curtainsopen. fb i use just to leave quick messages for fun or if people aren’t online and it isn’t urgent. xanga’s for blogging