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The blogring “<3~* Yea I Love my Baby Daddy!! *~<3″ should be renamed to “I Don’t Know what a Condom is~Tee Hee!”

I didn’t actually read any of the blogs, just the profiles of the girls who wrote them. Majority of them are under 20 years old, and have kids who are almost one. Whenever I see girls like this, who have thrown their lives away because of poor judgment, it makes me want to ask: Do you know what protection is? I mean, at all. AT ALL.

I really find it laughable when a girl who’s sixteen calls herself a responsible mother because she “goes to school while raising a baby.” To her, pursuing an education makes her better than the teen mother who dropped out of school to take care of her kid. But the girl who is going to school has her parents helping her watch her child during the day–so how does that make her “responsible”? How does having your mother take care of the baby you created make you a capable adult? It actually supports the idea that you are irresponsible because you obviously can’t raise your child and go to school at the same time. A responsible mother would know how to balance the two out–she would have finished high school before she got knocked up. Duh.

Basically, you can’t be a responsible parent if you rely on other support: i.e. parents, friends, welfare, etc. If you need daycare, you’re supposed to pay for it unless someone volunteers because they’re BORED and not because THEY FEEL SORRY FOR YOU. Your parents should not have to do it, just like you’re parents should not have to house you and your child, or contribute to your nutritinal intake. And that’s not my job either. My tax dollars (if I had to pay taxes, that is) should be going towards other things, like EDUCATION, and not towards girls who think it’s acceptable to have others pay for their mistakes.

I’m dying to know how and why these girls got pregnant. Seriously. I want to know why these girls thought it was acceptable to have unprotected sex. I’m not talking about rape victims or couples whose contraceptive meaures failed for some reason. I am talking about those idiots who thought that pregnancy was a virus contracted by touching poop with your bare hands, then eating a burger right afterwards.

And I don’t want to hear “I never had the talk,” or some other lame excuse related to pushing the blame on others. That just supports the argument that you’re an idiot and can’t take responsibility…I never did understand that one, really. Girls say, “No one ever talked to me about the risk of pregnancy,” but what about all the hype about AIDS and STDs? You know those warnings are all over the place, and yet even that doesn’t deter a person from using a condom? So the “no one ever talked to me” excuse is total crap. If you didn’t know about pregnancy, than you should have known about diseases. And you chose to ignore both of those risks.

…This isn’t to say that I blame teen mothers completely. I think teen fathers are just as pathetic, but men are pathetic as a collective. If you’re going to blame men for being stupid, then you might as well blame dogs for having four legs. You get it? If some men are unreliable when it comes to having protected sex, then the woman needs to make up for this deficit and take care of her own body. BECAUSE IT’S HER DAMN BODY.

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  4. I found your site at random but I think (in regards to the pregnancy question) that the people who get it quite simply don’t think it’ll happen to them. They can figure out the time of their cycle, they can try the “withdrawal contraception method” (I didn’t even know this was considered a form of contraception until they told us at school), they may even have considered using protection… But I think society in general doesn’t really tell them what can happen if they aren’t protected. Sure there may be talks and all, but when you’re with the “man you (supposedly) love”- what else is there to care about? If the media stopped creating such a cliched view on what ‘love’ entails, maybe kids won’t be in such a rush to find it? If they realised that they need to plan for the future, they might stop doing things today which would impede upon their future opportunities and careers.
    I don’t really know what the solution to the problem is- education may help but to a limited extent, parents need greater supervision of their children in my opinion, or there could be greater publicity on the way the stereotype epitomises teenage mothers as being looked down upon by society… but then;
    Just because we as individuals feel that their goals in life are different to ours, it doesn’t make them any less of a person. They may choose to raise a baby now whilst going to school, sure in a lot of cases it leads to an incomplete education without graduate (let alone post graduate) studies, but that’s the way things are. They may have been a bit stupid to think they could do it on their own (and not abort), but it’s their choice, their lives. The fact that they now have a little son or daughter who may live a less-than-ideal (or somewhat abnormal) life is their punishment for thinking that way. Can you think of any way to stop it?

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  5. Btw did you change your post? I don’t remember reading the tax-paying bit; don’t forget though, the education campaigns are usually government funded aren’t they? (nb. I live in Australia where we have a centralised education/schooling system). I do sometimes think that welfare should be abolished or at least greatly reduced because the benefits of welfare (ie. automatic stabilisers during economic downturn/rising unemployment) are limited, and by having too much welfare/social security allowances, the multiplier effect loses it’s power due to disincentives to save (for those on lower wages or welfare because they are receiving transfer payments) or it becomes a disincentive to earn (or increase in productivity)…. but that’s just economics speak.
    Would you agree that the majority of education regarding condoms and safe-sex is about STDs rather than pregnancy? I sometimes wonder- maybe the people who are “victims” of their own ignorance think that the only risk in unprotected sex is the STD and as a result, they feel if they don’t have AIDS, and their bf (safe to assume that they aren’t married yet I’d say) also does not have any STDs/AIDS, then there’s no risk involved. In Australia, most of the education/advertisements are focussed on the risks of contracting life-threatening diseases as opposed to creating another life by accident so maybe that needs to change?
    But then really, how would a country go about changing society? Certain groups or socioeconomic groups do not attend school on a regular basis, nor have the education to plan for the future- let alone even consider protection when sex. How do you educate these people? We don’t want to take the China approach of killing off pregnancies the govt. does not want (mind you, I do agree with the ideas behind the one child policy, although it’s policing/implementation could’ve been improved I think), and then we also don’t want to impose financial penalties on those who have children as a detterant (because chances are they’ll still have babies regardless, but be more financially worse off)… So what is there to do? Give out free condoms? Give out free contraception pills? But then, wouldn’t it be easier to decrease the ‘excitement of childhood hormones’?
    The youth who are driven to succumb to the so-called pleasures of sex leads us sto ask, “Is that the media’s fault?” I mean with movies like ‘American Pie’, no offence to Americans, but quite a few of us Australians (I use that term collectively to refer to citizens rather than the Anglo Saxan nationality) were quite appaled at the way American life is represented. Even TV shows like ‘That 70s show’ showed that high school students expect sex after their formal… Such a different culture to ours, when we always perceived there to be a great depth of similarities. Nonetheless though, is it the media’s fault? After all, the media gives what consumers want, and consumers want sex. So in the end we are left with a chicken or the egg question- but when will it stop? Do we want censorship on TV/advertising? We don’t want a sterile society which discourages creativity like in certain Asian countries. Then there’s also peer pressures- someone must’ve started the push to spread the word that ****ing at a young age was cool- I don’t know where that came from, and whilst it’s a pleasure which is enjoyable, where are the values which used to once be associated with the relationship which led to sexual relationships?
    Sigh… I don’t think there’s an easy way to fix this problem. Do you?
    On a sidenote, I remember reading in the paper not too long ago that that girls who say they will not have sex before marriage (in their teenage years) were more likely to have unprotected sex the first time (and also before they got married). Apparently having a TV in the bedroom of a child also increases that chance.

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  6. (wow that’s the longest comment I’ve given anyone in a long time…)
    Can I ask what age/nash you are? I’m 18, Malaysian-Chinese born/bred in Australia, finishing high school and beginning my (hopefully exciting) career as an auditor next year.

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